Feelings follow behavior

It is so true that the way a person feels is reflected in his/her deeds. I’ll give examples of various situations surrounding certain people in the public and private domains. Take for example Juju’s behaviour which has over the years reflected the hatred he has for other people. One of the nastiest things he did was insulting and throwing out a journalist from the media briefing he hosted. Look at Nelson Mandela, the passion he has for the people has made him to do many great things. One of his best deeds is the bringing of liberation for all South Africans. Coming to myself, I possess this feeling of enthusiasm which has led me to where I’m today. The fact that I feel motivated has made me a goal driven being, with no doubt an achiever.

It is better to practice a little than talk a lot

The topic above reminds you and me of our daily lives. Many are the times when we see people who often have something to say but not to do. Indeed, practicing makes people believe in you. Intelligent people judge others not on what they say but on what they do. For it is in the actions that one’s capabilities are manifested. A good example is about my life. It is now four years ago to be precise, when I announced that I was going to study full time and still keep my job at the Nose restaurant now Chenin Restaurant & Wine Bar.

The questions I received were as follow: how are you going to do this? Are you going to manage? Are you sure of what you are saying? Are you going to cope with the pressure? Are you going to be able to pass? The answer to all these questions was silent and lied within me. It was and I quote, “yes. I will prove it to you.” Mind you practicing for a purpose requires patience, without it you will remain a talker and hence, your talk will be of “nonsense” no sense to others.

Wedding cake-in-the-middle-of-the road

What could have happened?

Could it be that the groom was cheating and now the bride had discovered about the stinking moves of her husband to be? But come on! I mean, a lot of women have been in this kind of situation and in most cases they have given in for the sake of getting married. Though the story am about to tell is a sad and unique experience. It was actually found out that the husband to be was cheating with the mother of the bride. Yes I know, very sad hey? It was also discovered that the "mother" to the bride was not the biological parent but a nanny who took care of her after her mother died in a tragic car accident. This bride is one of the kind, despite the disappointment, she ensured that the groom suffered the consequences, she took him to court, hence, the wedding cake-in-the-middle-of-the road. The secret was on the open everyone had a piece of it...

Does holistic love come in bits and pieces?

Of course not!

What is love?

Love means caring for yourself first, before you care for others. For how can you love others if you don’t love yourself? It is only when you know how to love, can you then love others. How can you do something and be very sure of it if you have never experienced it?

Showing love to all kinds of things on this earth and therefore, human beings, nature, you can name it all, is love that is holistic. However, many people love various things which they don’t even care for, therefore, this kind of love can be labeled as false love. For example this has been seen in the behavior of the so called G8 countries or “superpowers” of this world that have refused to commit themselves to the reduction and prevention of climate change. The unsuccessful global conference on climate change in Copenhagen early this year supports the above statement.

How can you love someone when don’t love yourself?

Public smoking

I don’t think the South African legislatures have done enough to reduce passive smoking. Passive smoking is when the smoke from actual smokers is inhaled by non-smokers. What bothers me is to see certain people in society such as taxi drivers and conductors insensitively smoke inside the taxis. They claim that since they sit close to the windows, the smoke can’t affect the passengers in the taxi, instead it goes outside. The “outside” is the public area and therefore, the smoke affects people in those areas.

Law makers should revise the law and ban people from smoking in public areas regardless of the location. To protect non-smokers in public places, who also have the right to a smoke free society, smokers should smoke in private places such as homes. People should not die because of other people’s sins. Active and passive smoking pose a great danger to human health, hence, the warning on the cigarette boxes “SMOKING IS DANGEROUS”.

Languages

Many people want to speak different languages. It seems easy to be bilingual but it takes a person who speaks one language and wants to learn another to acknowledge the difficulties in studying a language. Knowing how to speak a certain language doesn’t only begin and end at bringing out words; however, it involves proper pronunciation to be understood by others.

Another important element in studying languages is to understand the deep structures of the particular language. Deep structures are language constructs which have hidden meaning. They are difficult to understand and thus, require the indigenous speaker of one specific language to explain that hidden meaning. The complications in comprehending deep structures can be compared to those found in understanding proverbs of various languages.
Lack of understanding each other’s languages is a problem, hence accepting them will reduce cultural conflicts in South Africa.

The Sound of one hand clapping.

I have learnt to clap for myself and it actually feels good to know that you can also clap for you and not others. I clap to approve of how best I have done something. I believe genuine clapping comes from oneself, for it is you who knows well how much you have worked to deserve that cheering and almost everlasting applaud. Clapping for yourself helps you to appreciate your own successes and encourages you to continue working hard in everything you do. Applauding for yourself reminds your value to the world and therefore, builds yourself esteem. Clapping for yourself makes your surroundings be aware of your abilities and therefore, be able to respect you for who you are. Self applause shows how much one values life.